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My fiance' has become a royal pain in the a$$ about all of my boards Always nagging me to sell off my old ones, even ones that are nearly 15+ yrs old that I have tons of memories on. Really Annoying to say the least.
What do all you married/long term relationship guys do when the broad starts nagging?
Havoc
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Edited by Havoc (02/05/09 07:26 PM)
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Hell ya, she was cool in the beginning and became more nagging and psycho as the years wore on... but then again, they all do!!
"tell her she should empty out her closet and photo books, I mean they're old right?"
Warren, everything you say when it comes to women has been soooo freaking spot on... Yeah WTF is up w/ all the shoes and the ex BF collection in the photo book...
sit down time here we come
Havoc
-------------------- "motions of rippage is initated by the hind leg"-Northern_Shores
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set the standard early and BE CONSISTENT. Don't give in. Tell her your boards are your business, they're important to you, and only you will decide what boards to sell and when. If she has a problem with that, let her stew about it.. but don't give an inch. trust me, you give in now - while you're engaged - and it'll set a precedent that will haunt you for all your married days.
Sounds harsh, but she'll eventually accept it and find plenty of other things to ride you about. Trust me on that one too.
Good luck.
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Edited by shiver_me_timbers (02/05/09 08:00 PM)
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Boundaries are invaluable for keeping the peace. You need to impress on her the fact that a surfboard isn't like a tennis racquet or a basketball, and one surfboard isn't a replacement for another. Unless it's a surftech.
Edited by GDaddy (02/05/09 08:03 PM)
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Well I'm beginning to master this whole surfboards thing with my mom so without sounding like I have an oedipus complex. My mom is an artist so I have gotten her to see surfing and surfboards as an art form. If I can just find a girl with the same artistic sense like that as my mom than I'll be fine I'm thinking. Who doesn't like art ha. Peace, Kyle
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Quote: set the standard early and BE CONSISTENT. Don't give in. Tell her your boards are your business, they're important to you, and only you will decide what boards to sell and when. If she has a problem with that, let her stew about it.. but don't give an inch. trust me, you give in now - while you're engaged - and it'll set a precedent that will haunt you for all your married days.
Sounds harsh, but she'll eventually accept it and find plenty of other things to ride you about. Trust me on that one too.
Good luck.
Ding, ding, ding. It's who you are, it's what you are.
And don't store them in her face, for cripesake. Find a room that she doesn't go in, or a place that she doesn't have to see every day. Don't store them in the garage next to her car. Don't keep them in the bedroom. Put them in a closet, YOUR closet, and make sure it remains YOUR closet. [no gay code intended, I'm being literal] Keep them on the side of the garage away from her car. "Out of sight is out of mind."
You think THAT'S bad? Try having one that wants to borrow every one of your boards and can't stop talking about how cool it's gonna be to "have your quivers combined"
Aloha
Bryan
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Quote: You think THAT'S bad? Try having one that wants to borrow every one of your boards and can't stop talking about how cool it's gonna be to "have your quivers combined"
Aloha
Bryan
what did you put in her quiver?
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havoc i feel your pain. my girlfriend gives me crap about buying new boards. but those days are over for me. i'll order a new board every great once in a while but for the most part i really like my black railed surfboard. this one
its definitely my main board. heres a shot of the bottom
i really like that black railed board. its got a flat bottom. see
oh i forgot it has a hard rail from nose to tail. its tough to see with the black rail and all
yeah that board is definitely a quiver killer and the only board i need for 09'
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If youc ontinue to put up with the BS from the wife/grilfriend/whatever the hell it is, this is what you iwll be wishing we sent you for you to use on yourself.
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Quote: havoc i feel your pain. my girlfriend gives me crap about buying new boards. but those days are over for me. i'll order a new board every great once in a while but for the most part i really like my black railed surfboard. this one
its definitely my main board. heres a shot of the bottom
i really like that black railed board. its got a flat bottom. see
oh i forgot it has a hard rail from nose to tail. its tough to see with the black rail and all
yeah that board is definitely a quiver killer and the only board i need for 09'
pure genius!
Havoc
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Quote: havoc i feel your pain. my girlfriend gives me crap about buying new boards. but those days are over for me. i'll order a new board every great once in a while but for the most part i really like my black railed surfboard. this one
its definitely my main board. heres a shot of the bottom
i really like that black railed board. its got a flat bottom. see
oh i forgot it has a hard rail from nose to tail. its tough to see with the black rail and all
yeah that board is definitely a quiver killer and the only board i need for 09'
Time to get a new fiance...or become more clever about how you store your boards.
I heard a certain board member's wife say "I don't mind his surfboards...I look at them as functional art" as he was using my visit as a means of breaking the bad news to her that more boards were on the way, presumably because he knew she wouldn't say what she really thought while there were witnesses.
I retooled my wall/ceiling racks. And have stashed retired boards in the garages of more than one trustworthy neighbor.
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Quote: set the standard early and BE CONSISTENT. Don't give in. Tell her your boards are your business, they're important to you, and only you will decide what boards to sell and when. If she has a problem with that, let her stew about it.. but don't give an inch. trust me, you give in now - while you're engaged - and it'll set a precedent that will haunt you for all your married days.
Sounds harsh, but she'll eventually accept it and find plenty of other things to ride you about. Trust me on that one too.
Good luck.
Ding, ding, ding. It's who you are, it's what you are.
And don't store them in her face, for cripesake. Find a room that she doesn't go in, or a place that she doesn't have to see every day. Don't store them in the garage next to her car. Don't keep them in the bedroom. Put them in a closet, YOUR closet, and make sure it remains YOUR closet. [no gay code intended, I'm being literal] Keep them on the side of the garage away from her car. "Out of sight is out of mind."
-sh3
+1 to both of these
I have a killer track record. But really just be up front as much as possible on what you love. Its like anything else.
If that does not work then get all your new boards the same color..(It would be harder to separate what you have )
Wow, if she is ragging on you about too many boards and you aren't even married -- the worst is yet to come
Wait til you're married, with a house, a booger-eater or 2, and "your" money is "her" money.
Some good advise was given earlier- get the ground rules established early - you are a surfer, surfboards (plural)are required. This is non-negotiable, but be prepared to accept something she buys that you think is BS (shoes, jewelery, house decoration stuff etc)
My wife doesn't care how many boards I have, in fact if I come to her with the "do you think I should buy it" when I am on the fence about a board, her response is always "Well what else are you going to spend your money on? You can always sell it if you don't like it"
Of course the flip side is I don't say a friggin word when she buys new curtains (window treatments?) I don't say "they don't wear out, why replace them?" That is her thing, stuff for the house.
Marriage requires compromising, don't let surfing/surfboards be the thing you compromise on Jim N
My wife is pretty cool about me and my boards. She actually encourages me when I'm debating buying a board. This is only to an extent though. I'll get a few new ones a year and sell older ones off, so it stays in equilibrium for the most part. If I started just buying everything I saw and started making a mess of the finances I'm sure her tune would change. She likes to buy her stuff too so it works out in the end just fine. I'll give her some slack for buying the tenth pair of black sandles, excess jeans, expensive lotions, scrapbook crap, etc., because she gives me some room for my surf and snowboards. It's about respecting each other while having some balance too. I've been happily married to her for 14 years and so far this has worked.
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Quote: set the standard early and BE CONSISTENT. Don't give in. Tell her your boards are your business, they're important to you, and only you will decide what boards to sell and when. If she has a problem with that, let her stew about it.. but don't give an inch. trust me, you give in now - while you're engaged - and it'll set a precedent that will haunt you for all your married days.
Sounds harsh, but she'll eventually accept it and find plenty of other things to ride you about. Trust me on that one too.
Good luck.
Ding, ding, ding. It's who you are, it's what you are.
And don't store them in her face, for cripesake. Find a room that she doesn't go in, or a place that she doesn't have to see every day. Don't store them in the garage next to her car. Don't keep them in the bedroom. Put them in a closet, YOUR closet, and make sure it remains YOUR closet. [no gay code intended, I'm being literal] Keep them on the side of the garage away from her car. "Out of sight is out of mind."
-sh3
+1 to both of these
I have a killer track record. But really just be up front as much as possible on what you love. Its like anything else.
+1 but I think this says it all in one very concise sentence: Marriage requires compromising, don't let surfing/surfboards be the thing you compromise on
I was surfer/surfing when we met, and waaaayy before we met, I'll be surfing until someone takes baseball bats to my knees, then I revert to boogies..its who I am, cant change that... might i suggest you do not hide anything and do not buy boards without firing a warning shot across the bow.. not asking permission, just making it known..I have recently gotten myself into some serious pain because I caught the fever, did some stupid sht... it was not necessary. I blame the design forum
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Very good advice given here, follow it and you will be fine. Give in and the next thing she will be saying is you are surfing too much, arguing begins, you give in some more, and you end up surfing once a month. Seen it happen many times.
Currently the number of boards I have are in the high twenties and not one word is said about them except that she likes this or that one. She has gotten so good at knowing what boards I like she can usually tell me right off that a board is good or not and she does not surf.
Just don't put your family/wife in a financial crisis because you want a surfboard and you cannot afford it. Live with what you have until a new one comes your way. There was a time when the only new board I got was my friends old ones.
I got into a discussion (aka arguement) the other day with my girlfriend about where we would live if/when we get married. I told her that I will never live further than I currently do from the beach. She was a bit (understatement) disappointed about my stance. I told her that surfing is a part of me, always will be, I've been honest about that from the start, and if she wants to be with me she's gotta accept that. If/When we get married and have kids, finding the time to get to surf will become much more difficult with all the added responsibility and being further from the beach will only make it harder to get in the water. She wouldn't want to be around me if I'm always miserable about missing a good swell, so it will only work if I can continue to be me. Same thing goes for your boards. As long as you're not putting yourself into debt and you can afford them, it shouldnt be an issue. If you are putting yourself into debt then that is a different issue that should be discussed before marriage. But I'm betting that is not the case. Like the functional art analogy above, find a way to explain to her that this is a part of you and if she loves you she will want that part of you too be happy and support it.
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out of sight, out of mind. trust me on this. i have 30 plus boards and only 1 can be seen without looking for them. my wife is very understanding, but we recently had twins and they are taking up all the extra room with their crap. as long as we have money in the bank and places to store all the twins' crap, my surfboards are safe and my wife is happy.
money gets tight, I stop buying. real tight, I start selling. haven't had to sell a board for financial reasons....yet.
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luckily we have a small place right now and she's set most of them around the house to be used as usable decorations. next place I know that will be different, and then i will use the out of sight out of mind philosophy. the bad thing right now is "you don't need another one, why don't you sell one of yours?"
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Who cares if she nags?! If she can't take it then she'll get the hint and pack off. You're no man unless you have the power to tune out, I know you are so use it. Little tricks like making your boards all the same scheme helps but do you really want that to be the reason you have monochromatic boards? For godsake man, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! How much do we have to endure EVERYTHING else with our beloved women....periods that seem to come all too soon, has it been a month already????....emotions....drama....needs... Well, we have needs too. Like sports and "our time". Women don't grasp this. Men are slowly being tamed by the female agenda. How bout a Goddamned Male revolution! Sh!t, might as well the world is ending soon. Times are trying men, Michelle is president. Commander in Poon sits on the seat, warming the nation with a motherly juice. BE STRONG! Hold on to your manhood because they can take away my rights but they can't take my nuts! (sleep lightly) "oh but i need her, I need to feel the warmth of a womans caress..." There's great women out there, then there's the feminist. BEWARE.
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Quote: Who cares if she nags?! If she can't take it then she'll get the hint and pack off. You're no man unless you have the power to tune out, I know you are so use it. Little tricks like making your boards all the same scheme helps but do you really want that to be the reason you have monochromatic boards? For godsake man, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! How much do we have to endure EVERYTHING else with our beloved women....periods that seem to come all too soon, has it been a month already????....emotions....drama....needs... Well, we have needs too. Like sports and "our time". Women don't grasp this. Men are slowly being tamed by the female agenda. How bout a Goddamned Male revolution! Sh!t, might as well the world is ending soon. Times are trying men, Michelle is president. Commander in Poon sits on the seat, warming the nation with a motherly juice. BE STRONG! Hold on to your manhood because they can take away my rights but they can't take my nuts! (sleep lightly) "oh but i need her, I need to feel the warmth of a womans caress..." There's great women out there, then there's the feminist. BEWARE.
stop the feminization of america! hahaha
that's why so many boys are diagnosed as ADHD nowadays, women want them to be calm like little girls
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Always nagging me to sell off my old ones, even ones that are nearly 15+ yrs old that I have tons of memories on. Really Annoying 
to say the least.
.. its only just begginning, just wait to you get her prego an she has a kid... they all start out "the cool chick"
There's great women out there, then there's the feminist. BEWARE.
stop the feminization of america! hahaha